A man may have a beautiful, rock hard physique and handsome chiseled face, but the things that truly make a man sexy have little to do with his physical appearance.

He listens and shows compassion and empathy. He chooses to be present and in the moment with you; he listens to what’s on your mind. He responds in a kind, manner and chooses his words carefully and without judgment.

He has your back. He makes you feel protected and safe. He has your best interests at heart and you can rely on him. He’s in your corner and his actions consistently demonstrate that he is trustworthy, dependable and honest.

He makes time for you out of his busy schedule. He gives you the attention you deserve and initiates making plans to spend time with you. He doesn’t just come over late and leave early. He is willing to make sacrifices because you are a priority in his life.

He does what he says he’s going to do, when he says he’s going to do it. He’s a man of integrity. He values being noble, trustworthy and kind ahead of personal gain. He doesn’t let you down. He’s a man of his word.

He’s affectionate – even when he’s not looking for sex. He wants to rub your back or your feet after a long, stressful day. He hears your favorite song and grabs your hand to give you a twirl. He enjoys kissing and cuddling and isn’t afraid of a little PDA.

He appreciates you. He takes notice when you go out of your way for him; and he makes the effort to thank/compliment you on your effort. He doesn’t take you for granted and is always looking for ways to show you how much he values having you in his life.

He holds your hand. This public display of affection is a sweet way to connect with you; and it sends the message that this man is committed to you.

Sexiness is a state of mind.

The most enduring and endearing form of sexiness does not stem from our physical appearance, but from our internal qualities. Isn’t it time we had a new standard for sexy?